The Three Amigos

-Rexi

You know, I thought that most guys talked to each other about their dates, but I guess I was wrong. This apartment is one exception. None of them knew they were asking out the same girl. Ken ended up asking me out on Friday night, Duke was asking me out for Saturday night, and Charles was asking me out for "sometime next week." WHAT WAS GOING ON? Was I a prize for some kind of game. I was so confused.

However, they are all very different. Duke is a real ladies man who's probably made out with a lot of girls, Ken is a likeable guy all around, and Will is a dancer (not gay).

By the way, I didn't go on a date with Ken Friday because I already had plans and I didn't go on a date with Charles Saturday because I was out of town. But out of all of them, Ken was the most confusing. I haven't talked to Ken in three weeks! And then all of a sudden he asks me out. I really can read guys pretty well, but I really don't know what he wants from me. (He's not gay by the way) We've gone on dates since January (without even holding hands) and we've kept in touch over the summer. And I feel when I am with him it's on his schedule. He asked me last minute on Friday, so I felt like I was the back up plan. I was so frustrated. Out of this apartment, I know Ken the most. So I decided to text him and this was our conversation.

REXI: Ok I really don't understand what's going on. Is this some kind of game between you three? I'm confused.

(It took him a while to resond)

KEN: Got your text. Who's you three?

REXI: Do you ever talk to your roommates?

KEN:Haha yeah why? Now I'm confused!

(Wow I was right, they don't talk to each other)

REXI: You Duke and Charles are asking me out and I just didn't want to be a part of some kind of game. That's all.

KEN: Haha really? That's crazy! I had no idea! I wasn't asking you out as much as just wanting to be friends. :)

(Ouch, that really hurt. He wants to be friends? This doesn't make sense. What guys pairs off with a girl and pays for a date if he wants to be friends. Unless we were just hanging out. I was mad at this point.)

REXI:Ok

KEN: Sorry to make you think something weird was going on! Did you go out with them or did they just ask you?

(At this point, I wanted to show him that I have been dating other guys, even his own roommates!)

REXI: I went to get a drink with Duke and he asked me out this Sat. Then dancing with Charles but we're doing something next week. I just didn't know what was going on.

KEN: Hmm weird. That's gross though. Duke is a slut who uses girls and Charles...I love him but he's just a goofy bloke. Don't waste your time with Duke though.

(Did he really just say that? It was kind of cute how he was warning me about Duke because that meaned he cared. (But I already knew Duke was a slut). But I was also furious that ken was telling me about what he thought about his roommates. Who does he think he is? It's like he doesn't want me to go out with them and yet he just wants to be 'friends' with me. I am not interested in Duke at all, but Charles is really nice but I probably wouldn't go anywhere with him. But I had to show Ken that I was looking at my options. The whole thing was Grrr!)

REXI: Wow well I don't know how to take that. Duke has been working out with me and helping me and Charles is cool. I don't think you should give me advice.

KEN: That's my opinion. Not my advice. You're free to do whatev :)

(At this point, I didn't know what to say. I was stuck. He was giving me the vibe that he didn't care what I did. Either he actually doesn't care what I do, or he's trying to hide his feelings from me. I just want to know what he wants. But it took me forever to figure out what to text next and then my phone started to buzz....)

KEN: Well nice talkin to you. Maybe I'll hear from you again next semester!

(What! He knows we haven't really been hanging out like we both thought we would. But he's been giving me the hints that he's interested in other girls. Why is he blaming this on me. I didn't go away. I'm the type of girl who encourages a guy by texting him or hanging out with him before devo, but he hasn't asked me to do anything with him. I'm not the type of girl to ask a guy out on a date. Call me old fashioned.)

REXI: What is that supposed to mean?

KEN: Just like we hang out one time and then i never hear from you after that.

(I'm not going to ask you out on a date! And you were completely giving me the cold shoulder at devo!)

REXI: I thought you were doing that to me. But can we talk about this later?

(I wanted to have this conversation in person, not through text)

KEN: Sure thing. I'm not mad or anything just so you know :)

(I'm mad!)

REXI: Ok, well I hope you have a nice day.

So now, I don't know what to do about the whole thing. I'm not sure if Ken will tell Duke and Charles that they've all been asking out the same girl or if Ken will keep this his secret. I really just want to tell Ken upfront. "What do you want from me? Do you want to be friends or something more? I'm not looking for a relationship or anything, but I just want to know what you are thinking?!?!" I want to go on a date with Duke just to make Ken jealous. But I'm not sure if that will even make him jealous cause he just wants to be 'friends.' I just don't know what type of guy would ask out a girl if he wasn't interested in her. That's how it works right?

But, this should be an interesting week. We'll see how the dates go.

Heck, for all I know the three amigos could just all back out!

Dating Whore

Rexi

I feel terrible. Ben and I aren't talking anymore. We finally had a little DTR and it killed me to tell him how I felt. I like Ben a lot, but I don't feel I could ever love him (P.S. I've never been in love). He's still in Washington and it's not that I can't handle long distant relationships it's because I'm obviously not crazy enough for him in order to keep this relationship going. I'm dating around and he won't. I told him how guilty I was feeling. Ugh.....it's so frustrating because he sends me cute text messages during my boring classes. He'll text, "Just thinking about you, Babe." or "You make me so happy even though we're far away." I was crying as we were having our conversation on the phone. He knew our relationship was balancing on a tight rope. I said, "If I wanted this relationship to work out, I would let it. I just feel that I am your first priority. You would do anything for me and you're always there for me, but I'm not there for you. My priorities are different from yours and it's not fair to you." I could tell from his tone of voice that he was sad. But surprisingly he wasn't mad at me. He understood and he told me that he would move on. But then he said, "Rexi, but before you go, I just wanted to let you know that you are the only girl that........." Stop. I didn't want to hear what he had to say. I interrupted him and told him that it would be best if I didn't know. It wouldn't solve anything if he told me. He said, "You're right. I don't know what I was thinking." Then we said goodbye and I cried myself to sleep.

I thought I was going to be very depressed the day after, but I wasn't. I was sad when I woke up, but once I went to class I was in my own little routine at school. Everytime I thought of Ben it hurt me. I still have feelings for him but if I know the answer, I'm just wasting his time. But my day got a little bit better when Duke decided to ask me out on a little mini date. Now, you don't know who Duke is, but he is in fact Ken's roommate! Ken has no idea that Duke asked for my number and we've been texting each other for the past week. I don't think Duke knows that Ken and I used to have a thing.

There are only two things that might be going on: 1) Ken isn't interested in me and told Duke that I was free game OR 2) Duke has no idea Ken and I had a thing (it sounds like Duke and Ken don't talk very much)

But this is the worst part. I'm not even interested in Duke. He's a real ladies man and he thinks he's God's gift to women. The only reason why I went out with him is because I wanted to show Ken that I was dating other guys. But since Ken and Duke don't talk very much I don't think that Ken knows about it.

Then there's Charles who is also Ken's roommate and he just invited me to go dancing with him tonight! (I have to hurry and finish this because I have to start getting ready) The thing is that Ken was gone this past weekend, so he didn't know that I was hanging out with Duke and Charles. I really don't think their apartment talks to each other. It seems like all those guys just do their own thing and they don't talk about their dates.....but..maybe not. Maybe they're playing some big joke on me. Is this a test?

But today Ken sent me a little message saying, "How are by the way? I haven't seen you at all it seems like since the semester started!" WHAT IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN? He hasn't talked to me in weeks and has clearly given me the hint that he's not interested and then he acts like I'm the one not interested in him! He's seriously so confusing. But I'm going to go to that dance with Charles tonight. It's not a date, but Charles was really wanting me to show up. We'll see how tonight turns up. I wonder if Ken would be there at the dance (I doubt it, Ken never told me he liked to dance).

Maybe this whole thing is a bad idea. I'm pretty much using Ken's roommates. eeeek.

I think I am a dating whore.

Meet Ben

Rexi

So I got flowers today. I was pretty happy about it no matter who they were from, but I had a pretty good idea who sent them. Enter Ben...now we have an interesting story. Not going to lie, he's super attractive and tall. His upper body is amazing and his shoulders and biceps are very distinct, so much so that sometimes I have to look away in order to keep my composure. But I don't really know what our relationship is. I met him back home at my singles ward. We started dating a week before school started. Once school started I would have to move away and I wasn't too sure if a long distance relationship was a good idea. Because time wasn't in our favor, our relationship was on steroids. Every day we were moving on to another level into the relationship. We dated in a week what most couples date in a month.

Before I knew it I was back to college. We both agreed that we would keep in contact, and we would date other people. I thought this a good idea. But it got to be more complicated than that. I started getting asked out on dates and of course I didn't tell him because I didn't want to make him jealous, but I found out that he wasn't dating anyone. This of course, made me feel guilty. I was the one dating and he wasn't?

He has very strong feelings for me, but I am hesitant. Ok he's 1. super attractive 2. does cute things (like giving me flowers) 3. funny ...but..I just don't think this is going to go anywhere. I told him this. Yeah, I don't think he liked that. But he doesn't take no for an answer. If I was more blunt and told him, "this is over." We would actually be over, but it makes it hard when there's a huge bouquet on my desk. Maybe he knows my weakness and he's using it against me.