Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Double Date


Rexi

So here’s my side of the story on that date. Bob had a huge crush on me in the first place and I wasn’t interested in him one bit. I remember the first time he laid eyes on me it was like that I-found-my-eternal-companion look. I was a freshman at the time and I remember sitting in church next to Erica and he would be in the same row as us on the other side and he had his head turned 90 degrees just staring at me. Of course Erica was the one telling me this because I didn’t dare look over at him. Erica told me to start picking my nose so that he may be turned off and leave me alone. But I couldn’t go so low as to do that.


Anyway, Bob and his roommate asked us out on a double date. I was so envious of Erica’s date because she was going with a premi who was fun and not expecting anything serious. Mine however, was like already planning out the proposal in his head. But we had to go the store (like what Erica said in her version) and she came to me asking if I had any stuff with me, but sadly enough I didn’t have anything. She needed to go back to the apartment and Bob was being such a jerk about it. He kept on asking why and I seriously wanted to be like, “Hey be a gentleman and go back to the apartment!” By the way, it wasn’t like we traveled very far. Our apartment was only up the street. But he was way to caught up on going back to the apartment that as we were driving out of the parking lot I could see us coming closer to the other car in front of us. No one was watching except me and I was thinking, “Ugh..we’re going to hit it. We’re going to hit it.” And then WHAM!....we hit it.

That made Bob even more frustrated. But bla bla bla we got going on the date. We went sledding and I would look over at Erica and her date and could see they were having so much fun goofing off. But just to let you guys know, I’m not the one to be rude on a date. My attitude is, they guy asked me out (which is always a brave thing for a guy to do), he is planning it, and paying for it. But anything that I did that was nice he took it like, “Oh my goodness, she totally digs me!” So I had to back off major. I hated going down the hill with him on the sled because of course we had to be close to each other and then when we reached the bottom I did the most horrible thing. He offered his hand and I pretended I didn’t see it and got up myself. If you were to know me, that is such an un-rexi-thing to do. But afterwards we got in the car and we were driving back home, but then I could see that Bob’s hand was in between our seats flopping like a fish for me to grab and hold.

Seriously, does he really think I am going to hold his hand.”

His handed started going on my seat a little bit (oh and by the way, he’s driving this whole time as well). Usually, if I don’t want my hand held I do the usual, I fold my arms. Well I was in this huge bulky coat and I started to fold my arms but I looked more awkward that anything because it was hard to do.

Bob could see the awkwardness and he said, “Are you ok?”

“Oh I’m just cold,” I lied.

I was dying hot, but I just didn’t want him to hold my hand. So because I said I was cold he turned up the heat. The rest of the way home I thought I was going to be sick from the heatstroke.

We finally got home and I told Erica, “I don’t ever want to go on another date again with Bob. For all I know he’s probably already bought the ring.”

But the story continues….

Bob is pretty persistent throughout the entire semester, but that is another story.

-Rexi

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

If it kills me

Rexi and myself have decided that we have been slackers at writing in this blog, so we are going to be better about it from now on.

I want to preface this post with an explanation. I have been living with Rexi for the past three years and we have been on a lot of double dates together. We have some horror stories about dating so we thought over this Christmas break we would share some of them.
Be prepared. These are awful. They are every girls nightmare and yes we did suffer through every one of these incidents.
We promise that we aren't going to exaggerate any of the stories, but being girls everything seems ten times worse than it probably really was. We are going to tell you from our points of view and hopefully you will all be able to sympathize and share some of your horror stories from dating. {Email us @ rexi.erica@gmail.com with your stories and we will post them within a couple of weeks!}

So before I tell you one of my horror stories I wanted to update you on the present...

John and myself are completely over. When I went to church on Sunday he didn't even acknowledge me. I was a little hurt inside but I played it off like I was cool.
What is up with guys acting like girls? Really? I thought we were out of high school. Just because you don't like me anymore doesn't mean you have to ignore me. It is so frustrating. Sometimes guys really bug me.

I went on that date with Jack and it was fun but while I was with him I really wasn't feeling it. I was even trying to force myself to have feelings for him, it still didn't happen. I think he felt the same way because now we just hang out and we are cool. There aren't any of those feelings of wondering what it would be like to date because we both know we dont feel that for each other. I like just having a guy friend to confide in.

Now I am going to share a date that I went on my freshmen year in college...

We all know how freshmen are. They are stupid and naive. I am not being rude, it is just the way of life. Freshmen think they are something else and they haven't quite caught on that they are in college and so they act really immature. Everyone can tell a difference between a freshmen and a sophomore. They have simply grown up.
I hate to admit how dumb I was as a freshmen but I really was the biggest idiot. I had no idea how ridiculous I must have seemed to so many people. It was no different with dating for me. I had no idea what I was doing.
I got asked out by a guy in my ward, Seth, and we were doubling with Rexi and Seth's roommate Paul. We were going to go sledding. I was really excited. It wasn't because of Seth, I knew I didn't like him, I was just happy to be going on such a fun date.
Seth came to pick me up and I was all geared up and ready for sledding, we were in the car with Rexi and Paul when Paul said he needed to stop at the local WalMart for some hot chocolate. Paul was just going to run in so the rest of us stayed in the car. As I was sitting there I started to get that feeling, every girl knows what I am talking about, and I realized that I really needed to get to a bathroom. The only bad thing was I had nothing with me, I hadn't brought a purse because I knew I wasn't going to need it and Rexi had nothing with her either. I couldn't go through the date without doing anything about it so I timidly asked Seth if we could return to my apartment really fast. He asked why, and I told him I had forgotten something.
Seth was really nice and didn't press me any further, I think he figured it was for something girly but when Paul got back in the car all of the trouble started. Seth told him that I needed to go back to the apartment for a minute but Paul didn't want to. Paul said that we were behind schedule and looked at me and said whatever it was I forgot I really didn't need. I insisted that I needed to go home, but he wasn't going for it. I was almost in tears trying to get him to go back. Finally, Seth stepped in and said something along the lines of "Dude just go to her apartment". Paul grudgingly started to pull out of the parking lot and while we were at the stop light Paul turned to ask me again why I had to go back when BANG!
We got in a freakin accident.
I have never seen a guy so pissed in my life. Especially on a date. Paul turned to me and said "Look what happened all because we had to go back to your stupid apartment". I was so mad at him. It was NOT my fault that he couldn't drive a stupid car. It also wasn't my fault that I just happened to be visited by mother nature right as we were on our date. I just ignored his snide remark and he gave the car in front of us his information and we went back to my apartment. I ran inside and did what I needed to. It took about 1 minute and he was still nagging on me over how much time we had lost being able to sled.
I still don't understant the rush of the date. It was so gay.
I remember I had a lot of fun with Seth. We did some crazy things on the sleds and afterwords we drank hot chocolate and talked. He was a good guy, but after that date I just felt like I couldn't quite look him in the eye. He obviously knew what had happened, and it was always a little awkward. He never asked me on a date again, but I was okay with it.

I am pretty sure that date was the worst date I had ever been on at the time. But I have definitely been on some awful ones since.

Dating is so crazy. I don't think anyone will ever be able to get over the first date awkwardness.

-Erica

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Goodbye Duke....Hello Bruce Wayne.


My excuse for not writing will have to be blaming finals week. It seems that finals always seems to be the scapegoat around this time of year.

But here's a little update. If I can remember. My last post was of me kissing the Duke. Yeah, that was a little crazy. Well, we are pretty much over.

SORRY IF YOU LIKED HIM! I just really don't think he's right for me. He's kind of one of those bad boys that acts good. Once he starts kissing it's like finding out that Superman was really Lex Luther. (That's a really weird comparison, but it's what I thought at the time).

But it was really hard to tell Duke that I wanted to move on from him. I'm not one of those girls that just ignores him or sends him a text telling him things are over. I honestly told him the truth. I said, "Duke, I don't want to be with you anymore and I sound heartless right now, but I don't want to waste your time and I don't feel you are right for me. You are a great, funny, attractive guy. Just not for me."

The end. GOODBYE DUKE!!!!

Next comes Bruce.....I know, I know....why am I still talking about Bruce. Well, he is my hometeacher and it makes me laugh everytime. I can't tell you how perfect he is when he gives the lesson. He has this smile to die for. He seriously has no flaws except for the fact that he doesn't have a personality. During the lesson it just seemed to me like he was trying to prove to me like he was some spiritual guy,....but....it just seemed so fake. I could see right through him. I keep on getting the feeling that he is interested in me, but I feel like he is super intimidated or something and I really don't know why.But I was looking at his facebook the other day and all of his pictures are so vain. I wanted to gag myself with a spoon. He is seriously eye candy though.

Is it bad that I want to give him a second chance? I just want to be like, "Hey lets go on another date...without you flexing your ridiculoulsy big biceps in front of me....and lets get to know each other." I picture us sitting indian style on the floor (not touching) facing each other and playing the question game. We would start by asking, "What's your favorite color?" to "What are you afraid of in life?"

Part of me like, "REXI! Why waste your time?!?"

Who knows what I'll do.....grrrr....frustrating.

What should I do?

-Rexi

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Woot, Woot

So I haven't talked to John at all since I have gotten back from the break. Neither of us have made any contact at all, so I am not feeling as guilty anymore. If he wants to buckle down and figure out what is going on between us, I will be prepared to talk about a relationship and whether I want one or not.

On a more positive note I ran into Jack on campus and we have a date set up for this weekend. I am pretty excited even though I have no idea what we will be doing. But I am confident that I will have fun with him no matter what.
Also, a guy in one of my classes came up to me today and asked for my number. I was a little taken aback but I gave it to him anyways. He said he really wanted to get to know me because I seemed cool, so that was nice of him. We will see what happens with this one. His name is Elliot.

I just wanted to quickly update and let you all know about these new crazy guys in my life!

-Erica

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Bad Romance

I am thinking when I get home from Thanksgiving break I am going to end it with John. It is a little sad, but I am pretty sure that I just like being single and dating around. Hopefully that isn't bad.

I have a crush on another guy anyway. Isn't that a little sad that I don't need any mourning time for John? I just really am not feeling it, and I might as well go out with someone that I actually like.
The guys name is Jack. He has nice hands, he is tall, he makes me laugh, and he isn't a guy who flirts with every girl he knows. I just kind of like him. :) We will see what happens here though...we only have a couple more weeks of this semester. There is always next semester though and then he will be around for summer but I won't.

Anyways, Thanksgiving has been fun. I love when I get to go home and veg and eat and sleep. Basically I wish I could just be lazy more often.

I hope all is well for all of you!

-Erica

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving!


I know every girl is thinking it, but they are just to embarrassed to say it in front of an audience.

I am grateful for TAMPONS!

Greatest invention in the world.
           
                            -Rexi

Monday, November 23, 2009

Guilty Pleasure

I know it has been ages since I've updated on my life. I am quite sorry about this. School can just take over and then before you know it time flies.

So I guess I am dating John...you know Heaths roommate? Crazy, I know. It must've been the back scratch I gave him the first Sunday at Church....

Here is pretty much what happened-

John asked me out about two weeks ago to go shooting. I was so excited because I have never been shooting before and I was looking forward to feeling the power of holding a gun and actually shooting it at a target (and for John to get nice and close showing me how its done).
The anticipation was almost unbearable for the couple of hours before he got to my house. Rexi and my other roommates helped me pick out something to wear and I am pretty sure I changed about 20 times trying to find the perfect outfit. I mean what do you wear to shooting? I wanted to look good, but not like I was some high maintenance girl (not like there is anything wrong with one of those types of girls...I am just not like that). Finally I found something that I liked and then all I had to do was wait for him to get there. That was when I started asking the questions like: "crap, what if we don't have anything to talk about on the way up there?" "should I not answer the door and have one of my roommates invite him in and make him wait?" "what if I make a complete fool of myself by not being able to shoot a gun?" I hate when I over think things.
He picked me up, the car ride up was fine we talked the whole time without any awkwardness, he taught me how to shoot (he smelt amazing as he stood close behind me holding my hands the right way on the gun), when we got back he bought me some hot chocolate and we talked for about two hours, then he brought me home and left.
That night we texted until about four am and he asked me out again.

We went on about four dates and then finally kissed. We could've kissed probably after the second date, but I sort of like making the boys crazy by taunting them. It just makes it that much better when it finally does happen.
The kiss was awesome. We had just gone hot tubbing and we were going back to his car and he just pinned me on the side of his car. It was hot and actually not that long but it was enough to make me want more. When we got back to his place we turned on a movie, I can't remember what it was but it doesn't really matter. That was probably one of the best make out sessions I have ever had. When he took me home that night I was extremely twitterpaited.

We've been dating for about a week, but I am just not feeling it any more. Yes, I like the attention and the texts and having someone to be with. But I am not liking this commitment to one person. I still want to go on other dates and he doesn't want me to. I don't like it, so I am thinking I need to end it.

Should I stay with him? There are like three other guys that I really want to go out with right now.

Sometimes it is way hard being the girl.

-Erica

Saturday, November 14, 2009

I KISSED THE DUKE!!!


Rexi


I can't believe it! Everything is changing so fast. So Duke has been asking to be with me like everyday this week. There was a time where I thought he was going to kiss me, but I kind of looked away.

But I finally did talk to Ken and I came to the realization that he is a guy who just doesn't know what he wants and that is just a turn off. I thought girls were supposed to be the ones who didn't know what they wanted. So I am done with Ken.

In the meanwhile, Duke asked me to go out with him today, so I did. He was just extremely attractive throughout the entire date. He kept on making me laugh and I loved it how spontaneous he was. We were sitting down on a piano bench in a small practice room and then we both stood up and we were very close to each other. So close I could only see his lips.

His jaw turned towards mine and he so gently touched my lips with his. I was so hesitant, but I wanted to kiss him more. He was still kissing me gently. He then slowly got his hand and grabbed my jaw and directed my jaw upwards towards his. He then got his thumb and pressed my bottom lip to open. The whole thing was very exillerating. After a while he got more passionate and wrapped his arms around my waist and I wrapped my arms around his neck. He then stepped forward a little bit and trapped me to the wall. I kept kissing him harder. He grabbed my leg and I lifted it up to wrap around his waist. After some heavy making out, I stopped.

I said, "Wow, we kissed for quite a while. It's cold in here." I was kind of out of breath from kissing. I kept on talking and I can't really remember what I was saying, I was just talking and he was talking back. But then all of a sudden he interrupted me and said, "Just shut up and kiss me." Then he pressed his lips hard on mine and we kissed for who knows how long.

I came home and Erica could tell by the smile on my face that I had kissed the Duke.

All I can say is I don't know what to think! Kissing complicates things!

-Rexi

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

The Mormon Boys


Ok, I need to give everyone an update on all the Mormon Boys.

Bruce did go hometeaching this month and it was super awkward. The whole time he was teaching, I was just nodding my head as he was giving the lesson. He was smiling the whole time, but I feel like he needs help when it comes to talking to girls. His looks only go so far. Afterwards, he asked what I was going to be for Halloween. I asked him the same thing and he said, "I don't know." I told him that he should be Bruce Wayne. Erica started laughing in the kitchen because she knew I've been calling him Bruce Wayne behind his back the whole time.

Duke and I have done some random text flirting but I don't think it's a good idea for me to go on another date with him. I'm just to afraid I'll be weak and give into making out with him. He smells soooo good it's killing me. If he knows what's good for him he wouldn't be wearing that stuff. It kills me.

Charles completely decided not to ask me out once Duke got a hold of me, so pretty much he's over with.

Ken and I have never had our conversation. I still don't know what it is between us. It's driving me crazy. I just want to know how he feels about me. But I'll probably never find out.

Noah sadly enough is with another girl. But that is Erica's story.

Ben and I are actually talking again, but it's nothing big. We just randomly call on each other just to see how everything is going. But we're both good, but I am not getting back together.

Eddie and Erica aren't talking anymore. Right now, Erica is paranoid that she's going to bump into him at school. I don't blame her.

Cody. Now here's some gossip. Erica and Cody were cuddling on the couch on Halloween night. I can't blame them. She was dressed up as cat woman and he was dressed up as batman. It was a perfect fit. Right? Too bad he's short.

John. Erica and I will randomly flirt with him through text, but I think that's all he is. He's just a flirting butterfly, which makes him really attractive, but nothing more.

Butch! Do you remember him. He's the guy that was practically in love with Erica. Well, he now has a girlfriend. This massive bear has a chipmunk for a girlfriend. She is tiny and he's huge. But they really like each other and that's what matters right?

Joe  and Heath (we've mentioned them more at the beginning of this blog) have girlfriends, so we haven't hung out with them for a while.

The End.
-Rexi

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Noah

I seem to have this problem. I don't know exactly how to explain it. It pretty much just has to do with being totally ridiculous in front of boys that I find attractive. I either shy away and look like a complete idiot when I talk to them, or I become this total jerk and try to be sarcastic but it doesn't work. I don't know what to do!?

I pretty much have a crush on the Elders Quorum President. (I know that I look like a typical Mormon girl chasing after the calling, but I promise I am NOT like that...) His name is Noah and he is so fine. He is actually really nice. When I first met him I thought that there would be no way in heck that he would ever even look in my direction, but recent events have led me to believe otherwise.

Every Monday/Wednesday/Friday I have a class right after him. When I realized this I knew that it was a perfect way to get him to recognize me. So normally after that class when he comes out I am standing there and I always say hi to him. He has always said it back and then I would just go along with my day. Well recently I have been running into him more often around campus. Every time this happens he sees me first and says hi.
I told my roommates about this happening and how I really wanted to have an actual conversation with him, but I was way nervous to just stop him and try to bring up conversation. Rexi told me to just ask him where he was going and then to bring up his major and go from there. But I was still scared.
Well, on Mondy I had it all planned in my head. I was going to be waiting outside of the class again and I was going to take Rexi's advice and try to bring up random conversation...but I didn't end up having to.
I was really early to that class, so I pulled out the book I am reading (The Princess Bride for those who are wondering) and I started to get really into it and didn't realize that classes were getting out. But I felt someone walking towards me and slowing down so I looked up and there was Noah!! Standing right in front of me, as if he was waiting for me to finish so he could talk to me. My heart was freaking out. I probably looked like a total retard because I was smiling so big. But he started to ask me questions and I answered them all and asked him some as well...but my head was not in the conversation at all. I was so happy he was talking to me I kept thinking about how awkward I must've looked just standing there, or how I needed to stop smiling, and how I should make more eye contact, and pretty much after he left I was on cloud 9.

Monday just flew. I kept thinking about how he had stopped and started to talk to me, and how I really just wanted to have more opportunities to talk to him and get to know him, and then...well you know how minds work...I just kept getting carried away in the daydreams.

But, I want things to move faster with Noah and I don't know how to do that without looking like a freak of nature. I don't want to seem desperate. I don't want to look like a stalker. I don't want him to get any bad idea of me! I just want us to talk more!! Gahh! What should I do?? At the rate we are going right now, he won't ask me on a date until December!! Come on!

I guess I am just going to have to try to sit next to him at Church or something...hmm any ideas?

-Erica

Monday, October 19, 2009

Dukes and Knights


Rexi-
Well, I think I need we need an update on the dating scene. I never went on a date with Charles because he hasn't asked. (Maybe Duke told him to back off). But Duke did ask me out. I was feeling somewhat reluctant because I felt in the back of my brain that I was still using him to show Ken that I was dating other people...even if that means dating his roommate! (Call me evil!) But there was something I wasn't prepared for, I was actually looking forward for my date with Duke. The whole time during the date I was seriously having a blast and he was very charming. He would show a lot of affection physically, like randomly putting his arm around my waist or he would grab my hand. If no one knew who we were it kind of looked like we were in a relationship. But he was really funny. BUT.....It still bothered me because I seriously felt like he was a player. He sure acts like one, and Ken's warning (Ken said that Duke was a slut) kind of made me cautious towards Duke....very cautious. I thought by the end of the date he would try to kiss me, but he never did. I admit, I had a lot of respect for him for that one. Another thing that was a little awkward on the date was that Duke took me to his apartment and of course Ken was there sitting on the couch playing video games. He had that deer-in-the-head-lights-look when he saw me, but quickly shrugged it by saying, "oh hey, fancy seeing you hear" which really meant, "I can't believe, you are going out with my slutty roommate!"


But then I did a dirty thing, the next day I was feeling really sick (hopefully, it's not the Swine Flu!) so I canceled my date for that night (I won't give him a name because I'll'll probably never write about him, he's way too short). But then Duke called up and asked if I wanted to go on a drive and I said yes! But I felt justified because I was only going on a drive. I was sitting at home anyways. What's the difference if I sit on a couch or in a car?
This date he was definitely more touchy feely. He would randomly touch my leg because his hands were cold (his hands were actually really cold, if I didn't know any better I would have thought he was a vampire). We then would hold hands randomly. There were a couple of times where I really really really wanted to kiss him, but I already made up my mind before my date that I wasn't going to kiss him and I was going to stick to it. It turns out that he didn't even try. But most of all I loved the conversations we had. We talked a lot and I felt I got to know him even more. I actually forgot about Ken for a while. Duke then told me that he acts like a player in order to know a lot of girls and he doesn't want to get attached unless he knows the girls feels the same way about him. After talking to him even more I realized that he wasn't such a manwhore as I thought he was. Yes, I am sure he's had his days but he was actually sincere. My mind was kind of spinning. Last week I was annoyed with him and somewhat using him. Now I don't know what to think.


But I was glad I was at church the next day because it was a place where I didn't have to think about boys. Relief Society was great. Sunday school was wonderful too, but then Sacrament Meeting happened.......and out of everyone in my ward my hometeacher is speaking, Mr. Bruce Wayne! Ugh......why? I knew that all the girls were only looking up at him to see his pretty features. I of course was disgusted. If only those girls knew, how little of a personality this dark knight had. Ok, I admit that I was checking him out a little bit too. But I and all my roommates swear that he was looking at me the majority of the meeting. Oh well, I don't really know what he wants in life....


But I really feel like I need to tell Duke how I feel because I don't think I should date him. He's not the right guy for me, even if I do like being around him. I don't want to hurt him. He's a good guy.


I wonder what life would be like without men?

Friday, October 16, 2009

Umm yes.

  • "Today my fanatic best friends were having a long, boring discussion about the Twilight movie. One said she thought Robert Pattionson would have looked hotter with a tan. A random person passing us said "Impossible. There's no sunshine in the closet". Thank you, kind stranger."
  • "Today, my sister told me that her fiancee proposed to her by giving her a ring in a Pok├ęball instead of a ring box. I've never been more jealous in my life."
  • "Today, I used a cheap store-brand pregnancy test just for fun, and it came out positive. I'm both male and a virgin, but I'd be simply thrilled to have a baby."
  • "Today, I was walking to class a little bit behind my 80 year old professor. He suddenly swerved to the left about five feet and JUMPED on an especially crunchy looking leaf. I'm glad I'm not the only one who does that."
  • "Today, I went out to lunch with my five year old niece. I asked her what she looked for in a boy, considering she had a 'boyfriend'. She immediately said, "Nothing! Boys are gross. I'm only using them for their animal crackers." I have taught her well."
  • "Today, I took a history test on the Mughal Empire. One of the questions asked "What famous leader was buried in a magnificent white marble tomb?" I answered Dumbledore. Not only was full credit awarded, but my teacher wrote "I was secretly hoping someone would put this." Best class ever."

-MLIA

(This website seriously made my day.)
-E

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Hey, chicks love it. It's a shaggin' wagon.

FACT: Beets, Bears, Battlestar Galactica.
FACT: Boys, Food, Dumb and Dumber

I don't know what the fascination is with the movie "Dumb and Dumber" but I find it a waste of time. When I first saw it yeah I laughed at some parts but for the majority of the time I was puking in my mouth or totally disgusted.
Really it isn't that funny. I have seen funnier. This movie is simply DUMB hence the title.

I feel like every guy out there LOVES this movie. I just wanna say PLEASE never suggest to watch it on a date. That is simply revolting.

Thats all.

-E

Sunday, October 11, 2009

The Three Amigos



-Rexi
You know, I thought that most guys talked to each other about their dates, but I guess I was wrong. This apartment is one exception. None of them knew they were asking out the same girl. Ken ended up asking me out on Friday night, Duke was asking me out for Saturday night, and Charles was asking me out for "sometime next week." WHAT WAS GOING ON? Was I a prize for some kind of game. I was so confused.


However, they are all very different. Duke is a real ladies man who's probably made out with a lot of girls, Ken is a likeable guy all around, and Will is a dancer (not gay).

By the way, I didn't go on a date with Ken Friday because I already had plans and I didn't go on a date with Charles Saturday because I was out of town. But out of all of them, Ken was the most confusing. I haven't talked to Ken in three weeks! And then all of a sudden he asks me out. I really can read guys pretty well, but I really don't know what he wants from me. (He's not gay by the way) We've gone on dates since January (without even holding hands) and we've kept in touch over the summer. And I feel when I am with him it's on his schedule. He asked me last minute on Friday, so I felt like I was the back up plan. I was so frustrated. Out of this apartment, I know Ken the most. So I decided to text him and this was our conversation.


REXI: Ok I really don't understand what's going on. Is this some kind of game between you three? I'm confused.

(It took him a while to resond)

KEN: Got your text. Who's you three?

REXI: Do you ever talk to your roommates?

KEN:Haha yeah why? Now I'm confused!

(Wow I was right, they don't talk to each other)

REXI: You Duke and Charles are asking me out and I just didn't want to be a part of some kind of game. That's all.

KEN: Haha really? That's crazy! I had no idea! I wasn't asking you out as much as just wanting to be friends. :)

(Ouch, that really hurt. He wants to be friends? This doesn't make sense. What guys pairs off with a girl and pays for a date if he wants to be friends. Unless we were just hanging out. I was mad at this point.)

REXI:Ok

KEN: Sorry to make you think something weird was going on! Did you go out with them or did they just ask you?

(At this point, I wanted to show him that I have been dating other guys, even his own roommates!)
REXI: I went to get a drink with Duke and he asked me out this Sat. Then dancing with Charles but we're doing something next week. I just didn't know what was going on.

KEN: Hmm weird. That's gross though. Duke is a slut who uses girls and Charles...I love him but he's just a goofy bloke. Don't waste your time with Duke though.

(Did he really just say that? It was kind of cute how he was warning me about Duke because that meaned he cared. (But I already knew Duke was a slut). But I was also furious that ken was telling me about what he thought about his roommates. Who does he think he is? It's like he doesn't want me to go out with them and yet he just wants to be 'friends' with me. I am not interested in Duke at all, but Charles is really nice but I probably wouldn't go anywhere with him. But I had to show Ken that I was looking at my options. The whole thing was Grrr!)

REXI: Wow well I don't know how to take that. Duke has been working out with me and helping me and Charles is cool. I don't think you should give me advice.

KEN: That's my opinion. Not my advice. You're free to do whatev :)

(At this point, I didn't know what to say. I was stuck. He was giving me the vibe that he didn't care what I did. Either he actually doesn't care what I do, or he's trying to hide his feelings from me. I just want to know what he wants. But it took me forever to figure out what to text next and then my phone started to buzz....)

KEN: Well nice talkin to you. Maybe I'll hear from you again next semester!

(What! He knows we haven't really been hanging out like we both thought we would. But he's been giving me the hints that he's interested in other girls. Why is he blaming this on me. I didn't go away. I'm the type of girl who encourages a guy by texting him or hanging out with him before devo, but he hasn't asked me to do anything with him. I'm not the type of girl to ask a guy out on a date. Call me old fashioned.)

REXI: What is that supposed to mean?

KEN: Just like we hang out one time and then i never hear from you after that.

(I'm not going to ask you out on a date! And you were completely giving me the cold shoulder at devo!)

REXI: I thought you were doing that to me. But can we talk about this later?

(I wanted to have this conversation in person, not through text)

KEN: Sure thing. I'm not mad or anything just so you know :)

(I'm mad!)

REXI: Ok, well I hope you have a nice day.

So now, I don't know what to do about the whole thing. I'm not sure if Ken will tell Duke and Charles that they've all been asking out the same girl or if Ken will keep this his secret. I really just want to tell Ken upfront. "What do you want from me? Do you want to be friends or something more? I'm not looking for a relationship or anything, but I just want to know what you are thinking?!?!" I want to go on a date with Duke just to make Ken jealous. But I'm not sure if that will even make him jealous cause he just wants to be 'friends.' I just don't know what type of guy would ask out a girl if he wasn't interested in her. That's how it works right?

But, this should be an interesting week. We'll see how the dates go.

Heck, for all I know the three amigos could just all back out!


Friday, October 9, 2009

Loser

I HATE BOYS (okay, hate is a strong word...I just DISLIKE some of them with a great passion).


So Eddie. Random guy I just met, I gave him my number, we've been kinda hanging out. (thats the gist of it.)

Eddie is a total jerk. First of all I can't read him at all. Well, thats a lie. I know that he is interested in me, but I am confused over his communication skills.

Our first sudo-date experience:

He texts me asking me if I wanted to go get a drink. I go. The whole time he has his music on in the car and he wont respond to any question with more than "yeah" or "no". I tried and tried, but no avail. Really retarded. Then he tells me he has to go grocery shopping so I had to go with him. He ended up spilling a drink all over me and just laughed. (I wouldn't have minded if he had apologized.) Then in the car he kept turning to me asking if I knew the artist to whatever song was playing. I was so annoyed, but he wouldn't take me home. I didn't want to be rude so I stayed but it was extremely awkward and I hated it.

He then makes up for it by asking me if I wanted to go for a drive with him the next day. I went and he had an easier time talking and it was fun. But also awkward because the whole time we talked about kissing and stalking. Random conversation but at least he was talking. It really threw me off because of the night before. He told me that he had made out with 3 girls in one night once (I don't know if he was trying to impress me or what but I was like wow he is a manwhore) and then he went off onto that whole story and then started asking me about making out stories. He took me home, and I had no idea what to think of him.

My roommates were all just as confused as me once I told them what had happened. We all know he obviously wants a make out session. But I am not that type of girl, and I don't make out with boys I don't like. I don't even feel like I am physically attracted to this guy. I HARDLY know this guy, we literally just met like 5 days ago.

Then two nights ago he called (so I put him on speaker phone so my roommates could listen in) and he asked if I wanted to watch a movie on campus with all of my roommates and random people the next day. I said I would talk to them about it and let him know, he then proceeded to ask me if I wanted to go on another drive with him. I didn't go, but I told him I would let him know about the movie thing.
I texted him later that night saying that we would love to do that, and then he texted me for awhile but I fell asleep.
So yesterday happens and I have class and then I end up going to the city with my roommates for the day and right when I got home I checked my phone and Eddie had tried to call. I called him back and asked if we were still on for the movie and he told me because he hadn't heard from me all day he didn't reserve the place so it was a no go. He asked if I wanted to do something else, but I had made backup plans with my roommates so I said that I was going to stay home with them and he flipped out. He started to yell at me on the phone and then he told me to put it on speaker phone and when I did he started to yell at my roommates.
I was so mad. I got on the phone and told him that I would call him back in 10 mins and then I hung up on him.
I don't know who this guy thinks he is, but he can NOT treat me or my roommates like that. I seriously wanted to text him and ask him where this attitude came from. He texted me though after I hung up on him and said "Im just frustrated because I waited to hear from you all day and now I don't even get to see you". I was thinking to myself "are you serious dude, we haven't even gone on a date, I don't owe you anything!" I texted him back saying sorry and then I stopped texting him even though he sent me about 25 texts apologizing.
Then last night he texted me around 1am and asked if he could come over. I said sure, but then he was all can you just come to my car. I really wanted him to just come and talk to me in my apartment but I went with him anyways, because I wanted to clear some things up with him.
When I got in the car he apologized for the miscommunication and told me he was just joking when he was yelling and stuff like that. I told him I wasn't going to take crap and I would let him know if he was pissing me off.
We then talked about stuff and I find out that we have NOTHING in common. Seriously we are complete opposites. It isn't a bad thing, but I just feel like he has nothing to him, and I feel like I could never be deep around him.
He took me home at 2am and he was all "we should mess your hair up and make it look like we were making out" and as I was stepping out of the car I turned to him and said "as I left my apartment I told them I wouldn't ever make out with you." then I slammed the door shut and ran into my apartment.
I am so frustrated. He is ridiculous. He ended up texting me saying thanks for going with me, and I said its okay, I learned a lot about you. He asked if it was good or bad and I told him that I just thought we were complete opposites. He then pulled the stupid saying "opposites attract" so I said "birds of a feather flock together" and then he got mad again. He asked me if I was telling him that he had no chance with me because we didn't have anything in common. I told him no, but that we shouldn't even be having this conversation because we weren't even dating, and then he got even more frustrated with me.
I called him, because sometimes texting makes things look worse than what they really are and he told me that he didn't even know if he wanted to take me out on a date and then when I told him that I just wanted to be friends and that I didn't know what he was thinking he hung up on me.

I think he is a jerk. I don't want to talk to him again. I don't want to even see him again. Am I justified in thinking any of this? Am I being a brat for not giving him more of a chance?

I just don't want to deal with a freakin' girly boy! It is like he has PMS or something. I just don't like all of this drama, and I shouldn't have to deal with it.

and this my friends is why I dislike boys.

-E

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Dating Whore


Rexi


I feel terrible. Ben and I aren't talking anymore. We finally had a little DTR and it killed me to tell him how I felt. I like Ben a lot, but I don't feel I could ever love him (P.S. I've never been in love). He's still in Washington and it's not that I can't handle long distant relationships it's because I'm obviously not crazy enough for him in order to keep this relationship going. I'm dating around and he won't. I told him how guilty I was feeling. Ugh.....it's so frustrating because he sends me cute text messages during my boring classes. He'll text, "Just thinking about you, Babe." or "You make me so happy even though we're far away." I was crying as we were having our conversation on the phone. He knew our relationship was balancing on a tight rope. I said, "If I wanted this relationship to work out, I would let it. I just feel that I am your first priority. You would do anything for me and you're always there for me, but I'm not there for you. My priorities are different from yours and it's not fair to you." I could tell from his tone of voice that he was sad. But surprisingly he wasn't mad at me. He understood and he told me that he would move on. But then he said, "Rexi, but before you go, I just wanted to let you know that you are the only girl that........." Stop. I didn't want to hear what he had to say. I interrupted him and told him that it would be best if I didn't know. It wouldn't solve anything if he told me. He said, "You're right. I don't know what I was thinking." Then we said goodbye and I cried myself to sleep.

I thought I was going to be very depressed the day after, but I wasn't. I was sad when I woke up, but once I went to class I was in my own little routine at school. Everytime I thought of Ben it hurt me. I still have feelings for him but if I know the answer, I'm just wasting his time. But my day got a little bit better when Duke decided to ask me out on a little mini date. Now, you don't know who Duke is, but he is in fact Ken's roommate! Ken has no idea that Duke asked for my number and we've been texting each other for the past week. I don't think Duke knows that Ken and I used to have a thing.

There are only two things that might be going on: 1) Ken isn't interested in me and told Duke that I was free game OR 2) Duke has no idea Ken and I had a thing (it sounds like Duke and Ken don't talk very much)

But this is the worst part. I'm not even interested in Duke. He's a real ladies man and he thinks he's God's gift to women. The only reason why I went out with him is because I wanted to show Ken that I was dating other guys. But since Ken and Duke don't talk very much I don't think that Ken knows about it.

Then there's Charles who is also Ken's roommate and he just invited me to go dancing with him tonight! (I have to hurry and finish this because I have to start getting ready) The thing is that Ken was gone this past weekend, so he didn't know that I was hanging out with Duke and Charles. I really don't think their apartment talks to each other. It seems like all those guys just do their own thing and they don't talk about their dates.....but..maybe not. Maybe they're playing some big joke on me. Is this a test?

But today Ken sent me a little message saying, "How are by the way? I haven't seen you at all it seems like since the semester started!" WHAT IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN? He hasn't talked to me in weeks and has clearly given me the hint that he's not interested and then he acts like I'm the one not interested in him! He's seriously so confusing. But I'm going to go to that dance with Charles tonight. It's not a date, but Charles was really wanting me to show up. We'll see how tonight turns up. I wonder if Ken would be there at the dance (I doubt it, Ken never told me he liked to dance).

Maybe this whole thing is a bad idea. I'm pretty much using Ken's roommates. eeeek.

I think I am a dating whore.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Bruce Wayne

Rexi



Ok, so recently I've been going on a lot of dates. I'm getting the feeling that my roommates are getting a little annoyed. One of them is even tallying all of my dates and keeping a record. Should I be feeling guilty? Aren't we commanded to go on dates? But with these dates, they aren't always these romantic dinners on roof tops.

One of the dates I found to be most interesting. I get asked out by my home teacher, Bruce. Now this isn't just some homely guy who comes to give me a little lesson. He is honestly the best looking guy in the ward and could seriously pursue a career in modeling. I would consider him a 10 when it comes to looks (that rarely happens). His biceps were as BIG as my face! I seriously wanted to bite them the first time I saw them. He has black sharp hair and has a smile that could be advertised on a Colgate commercial. It wouldn't surprise me to see him on the front cover of People Magazine. When he walks by I see other girls taking a double take. Every girl wants this guy's attention. I don't know how he became to be my home teacher, but when he gave me a call telling me he was coming over to teach the lesson I about DIED! Bruce was coming over to my apartment! This past weekend he asked me out. I was literally SCREAMING with excitement!

He picked me up and I didn't know too much about him so we began in to a little bit of conversation. "What's your major?" "Where are you from?" The only problem was is that I was the one asking the questions. I know everything about this Mr. Bruce Wayne and I doubt he even knows my first name. But it wasn't like he was cocky. It seemed like he couldn't communicate well. How could this drop dead gorgeous guy be awkward in conversation?

We got ice cream and watched a movie at his apartment. He brought out a blanket and I thought, "hmm...this means we'll be sitting close together." No, he just put his arm around me as if we had been dating for a month. We cuddled and I wasn't complaining too much. I felt so small next to him and he smelt really good. But later on, the cuddling became a little more intense. We were really cuddling.... My head was on his chest. His pecs were huge and his hand was around my waist. His other hand was occupied with mine. My head was moving up and down from him breathing. I could have layed there all night.

He was holding me really tight.........then it became a little too tight. What became a really cute cuddling session became a gun show. It was like he was showing off his muscles by trying to squish me. At random times in the movie he would wrap his arms around me and then he would just squeeze. It was like he was showing off his amazingly big muscles. I couldn't see the TV screen because his biceps were in the way....I'm not going to lie, the whole thing was kind of a turn off.....but it wasn't over. He then started to touch my face and his fingers were feeling my cheeks and my chin. Then he slowly brushed his fingers against my lips....I think I was hyperventalating at this point. Yes, it felt good! But it was still a turn off. I didn't want to kiss him at all. I had no intention on giving Mr. Bruce Wayne action. The whole thing was very awkward. I was fully prepared to turn my head if he tried to kiss me. I was also planning what I was going to say if he tried to lay a fast one on me. But then the movie got over and he was stalling to take me home. There were so many times where he would get so close to my face and look at my lips. It was like he was saying, "I dare you to kiss me." HELLO! I wasn't even tempted! Not even his amazing good looks were going to get him this far. Because I wasn't exactly going up to his face he then hugged me and then when he pulled away he slid his cheek next to mine and I swear his lips were sliding by my jaw. WOW! It was seriously soooo intense! It was like slow motion going on. His lips never made it to mine probably because he got the hint that I would probably pull away. But before things got a little worse, I then told him jokingly, "you are a teaser." He chuckled and said, "what does that mean?" I just shrugged my shoulders and said. "So do you do this every friday?" He said no.

The funny thing was was that he was so comfortable with his body and physical self but he was horrible in communication. I think he uses his amazingly good looks in order to get dates. He doesn't even have to try. What girl would turn him down? He is so confident and yet he was an absolute bore when it came to his personality. I honestly think his looks have crippled his communication skills!

Alas, what a shame. Bruce Wayne is no Batman.

Hey at least I got a free cuddling session!

Friday, October 2, 2009

There Ain't No Party Like My Granny's Tea Party Hey Ho!

Like Jemaine says in Flight of the Concords:


"Sometimes when I free style I lose confidence..."

Sometimes I feel like a retard when I try to flirt. Then if it doesn't work I lose confidence. Then I watch as Rexi just smiles at a guy and gets a date. How frustrating.

blah.

-Erica

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

...eye flirting.


-Rexi

In one of my classes, we have the desks all sitting around the edge of the room to make a circle. I sit on the side of the circle, so I have to look towards my right to see the teacher.........If I look straight ahead, there is a guy on the other side of the room who is always facing me. Sometimes I am too lazy to turn my head while listening to the teacher, so I see all the people on the other side of the circle. It seems that the guy sitting across the room from me has the same weakness when it comes to turning his head to face the teacher, therefore we make eye contact A LOT!

This isn't just a glance once or twice. It's like we're trying to make a baby with our eyes. But it makes the class interesting. We both know that we are having this very intense eye communication, aka eye flirting. His name is Scott (I paid extra attention when the teaching was taking role of the class).

I have yet to see where Cyclops and I will be going with this. Will he ask for my number? Or are we going to continue this staring contest for the rest of the semester?

My eyes are KILLING ME!

Monday, September 28, 2009

Heath


Rexi


So Erika kind of explained how much fun we've had with Heath and John. Erika is a 100% right about John! He's one of those guys that all the girls love because when he talks to you, you can't help but feel a little bit flattered even though I would never consider him hot. (However, Erika did have some success with John. She scratched his back during sacrament meeting.)

Now Heath is a different story, girls love him for different reasons. Out of Heath and John, Heath is definitely the leader. He knows more than half of the school and when you talk to him there is always someone who passes by that says, "Hey Heath!" It can be very annoying. I think John uses Heath to meet other girls. The funny thing is, is that Heath isn't your typical oh-my-gosh-i-just-want-him-to-ask-me-out type of guy. He is really tall and skinny. Now when I mean "skinny" I'm not talking about the tall lean figure, I'm talking about SKIN and BONES skinny. When I first hugged him I swear I was hugging Jack the Pumpkin King from The Nightmare Before Christmas (I felt like a giant hugging him and I'm not big at all). The great thing about him is that his vibrant personality makes up for it. Heath is just simply "cool." The problem is, is that I can't picture him with a girlfriend. He has lots of girlfriends, but I think girls love being his friend and nothing more, which is sad because he's been off his mission for almost five years. But he's a social butterfly and he'll find someone.
I wonder if John uses Heath because of all his connections. If you hang out with Heath, you'll meet people in no time. Heath also knows everything that goes around. If you want to go to a party he can tell you when and where. But I think he might have a crush on one of the girls in my apartment. At this moment I'm trying to figure out who. Hmmm...
What's wrong with me? I used to be able to read guys so well.
I think I'm losing my super powers.

Demolition Man

Meet Butch:


Eww gross. Puke in my mouth. Gotta run away from laughing so hard at his efforts kinda guy. Now I am sounding like a total B. But seriously, all girls know guys like this. It is like "hello! Get a hint!" kind of a guy.
Basically you could tell this guy straight up that you aren't interested and he will still try.

Butch and Rexi have known each other for years. They were neighbors since the 6th grade and now he's back from his mission, so they've kind of grew up together. That was how I met him.
Right from the moment I saw him I knew nothing would ever get me to even consider going on a date with him. He was wearing really baggy clothes, he hadn't shaved, his face seemed far to big for his beady little eyes, it was revolting. (Yeah, I sound like a complete jerk.) He was nice but I could tell he was trying way to hard to impress us girls and it was laughable.
He tried for awhile to get Rexi to like him, but she wouldn't fall for his so called "charms" so he moved on to me.
Now I think there are some things you need to know about my personality. I am extremely blunt. I will tell you how it is. I will make it very clear how I feel about a person within minutes of meeting someone. I sound really harsh and totally judgmental, but I have never been wrong about a person yet...so I like to go with my gut feelings.
I remember the first time Butch tried to catch my attention. He kept flexing his muscles and touching me. I remember saying to him "stop touching me" but like all boys he hears "please keep touching me...I like it." I was sitting on a beanbag chair at his apartment and he thought it would be funny to try to bounce me off of it, but he missed and landed on me.
HE LANDED ON ME. Can I just emphasize that he is HUGE. His 400lbs of skin, fat, and muscle landed on my little 130lbs of a body. I screamed in pain, and he just laughed like I was kidding. I went home that night feeling like the whole left side of my rib-cage was broken. It was not a good time, and for some reason he kept trying.

I think for awhile he got the hint and left me alone. Especially after I deleted him on facebook and deleted his number off my phone so every time he texted or called I would be like "umm who is this?". But now at the beginning of this new semester he has somehow gotten into his head that he should try again. Can I just say, nay SCREAM, how I do NOT want him to do this.

I have been ignoring him for so long, why oh why is he begging for my attention again?
grr boys.

-Erica

Smooth

So I think I have a kinda sorta crush on a boy in the ward. His name is John.


Sometimes I think he is attractive. Then other times I don't. (Like when I see him from the profile I don't think he looks good, but face on he is way cute. He also doesn't have good guy hands, they look way to small...I feel like if I was ever to hold hands with him they would get clammy quickly and appear smaller than my hands...who wants that? Not I.) So I am in a bind. Also, he is sort of a ladies man and I hate getting into those situations where you are fighting for a boy. I want the boy to fight for me dang it!

Here is how I met John:

He came over to our house with his roommate Heath. Heath is awesome. He knows EVERYONE. He is one of those personalities where he just gets along with everyone. But anyways, they came over to invite us to a gas station to get a drink (the cheapest big gulp EVER!). And I couldn't help but laugh at John and his sparkling and unique personality.

We have hung out the past couple of weekends with everyone and it has been fun, I can tell if I started to flirt it up a little more I could get a date and maybe more out of him (not like I am looking for a makeout or anything, I am just saying if we got along then possibly we could...). I just don't know if I want it.

help!

-Erica

Friday, September 25, 2009

Minesweeper

Short. Tall. There is a difference right? Well, I guess no according to about half of the population of people in my ward.

A story for you:

The first Sunday in my new singles ward I was asked to teach Sunday School (luckily not as a calling, just as a one time thing). I really didn't want to, but I didn't want to let my new Bishop down and I knew it would be a great way to meet new people (even though I didn't want to admit that to Rexi...she could totally see through me though). So I slaved away all day Saturday putting together a lesson that I thought would be adequate.
On Sunday I was way nervous. I went to church dreading it, but excited all the same. I go into the Sunday School room and start to set up and nobody was really in the room with me except my roommates. Then all of a sudden a whole group of boys walk in. I am talking HUGE there were seriously like 10 guys to all of the girls in the room. I even said something out loud about there being a lot of boys. But anyways I did a quick survey of all of those boys and I don't know what it is about men in a suit, but they always will look better than when you see them in real life. So I was thinking that all of these boys were really cute.
I teach my lesson. It went really well, everyone commented and I didn't even finish everything I had prepared. I thought that was a success in and of itself. Afterwards some of the guys came up to introduce themselves and tell me that I did a good job. I was flattered and started to really judge whether I should start going for these guys. I noticed that there were a lot of them that were shorter than me. I also noticed that there were a lot that were around my same height and then there were a select few who looked tall.
Now I don't want to sound like a total judgmental girl who only cares about height and looks, but I am telling you all right now that it just matters to me because I happen to be tall. And the looks part is just a fact of life. Everyone has to be attracted to someone else before anything can happen between them.
The next day at FHE I couldn't remember who I had already met so I started to introduce myself to people again. I decided to eat my pizza with a group of boys and Rexi joined me. These guys weren't bad looking. They were all really nice, but the one who I thought was the hottest was short. (His name was Cody) I was so mad but I still stayed and talked to them and then by the end of the night we had all exchanged numbers and went on our seperate ways.
Well about two days later I see Cody and one of his roommates (Joe) and they were just passing by my apartment. Our door was open so they stopped and said hey and then left. Then Cody kept coming back. It was like clockwork. Every 10 mins Cody would walk in the door. We ended up talking for a long time and then he finally left for good. I didn't think anything of it (he is short after all) but my roommates all attacked me asking me if I thought he was cute and all of that other girly jazz. They then told me that they all thought he was totally into me and that he probably wanted to have my babies. At that point in the conversation I just left because I couldn't take it anymore.
Well, I get on facebook and found Cody so I added him along with a bunch of the new people I had met and within an hour I got a text from him saying that he didn't want to sound like a stalker but he was looking at my fb and he wanted to know how hiking was (I had gone hiking the day before). We started texting and we texted for a couple of hours until I told him I had to go finish homework and go to bed.
That next weekend we hung out he came over with his roommate and we all chilled and played games and had a lot of fun getting to know eachother but I seriously felt like we were "just friends". All of my roommates think differently.

So here is my delima. I really do think Cody is attractive. The only thing holding me back is that he is short. Isn't it awkward for him? Like in all honesty he has to look up at me. I don't know how guys can deal with that, but it doesn't work for me sadly.

help.

-Erica

Flashback



Rexi

Here's a little bit of a flashback. Last week I went on a date with a guy that has always been in the back of my mind. Ken is probably the most confusing guy I have ever met. He is seriously breaking all the rules when it comes to how "guys hint." It's like I'm trying to read a girl. He's so complex.

Most of the time guys in general are completely transparent. I can see right through them. I can tell if they like me, I can tell if they like Erica, and I can tell if they're hungry and just want to get fed. They're like pets in a way. My dog back at home when he wants to go outside will scratch the door and when he wants food he'll rest his head on my lap. Well, this guy is no dog.

Ken is a very confident guy who attracts people in general. He knows everyone by name and he believes in connections with people. He's pretty deep. As for looks, the best way to describe him would be "an all american boy." He's very good looking, but he wouldn't be the first guy I would notice if I walked into a room full of guys. I didn't really notice any amazing physical features at first, but now that I've known him for a while, he's very muscular. Broad shoulders....yum. Not very tall though. When he looks at you it feels like you are the only person in the room. He just has a very charming personality and it's killing me.

We dated a lot last year and we never made it as far as holding hands or cuddling. But I was fine with that. But then we went our separate ways. I worked in the summer while he was in Connecticut. We kept in touch and now we're both back to school. I was very anxious to go on this date. The problem is that I can't read him at all. I can usually tell how a guy feels towards me on a date. It was like I was Edward and he was Bella and I was frustrated because I couldn't read his mind and I'm not even a Twilight fan!

He'll text me once in a while, or he'll say things like, "Rexi, you should drop that class and take this one with me." It's like he wants me to chase him (I've never been the one to chase boys, I get them to chase me). He's like the song "Hot and Cold" by Katy Perry. He'll ask me out and then I won't here from him and then out of no where he'll text me and ask me out again. He'll also say things like, "I like talking to you," or "Rexi, I like being around you." Sometimes I don't know if he wants to be friends or something more. If he's going to be my friend, I'm going to treat him like a buddy. If he wants to be something more than I'm going to raise my flirtation levels.

Erika can't stand Ken. She thinks the reason why I'm always drawn to him is because he hasn't fallen to my feet. I think she has a point. 99% of the guys I go on dates with fall for me and then I have to give them the "speech." (I'll tell you about the speech in another post, so you'll have to keep on reading) Ken is more attractive to me because he's unpredictable and he's something that I might not be able to have and I think that's why he's driving me crazy. I just need to go back to guys like Ben who are simple and if they like me they'll tell me up front and show me by giving me flowers. By the way, I sound like I'm high maitenance, but I'm not.

Ken had better tell me what he wants from me or I'm just going to start ignoring him. Sad, but true.

Meet Ben

Rexi


So I got flowers today. I was pretty happy about it no matter who they were from, but I had a pretty good idea who sent them. Enter Ben...now we have an interesting story. Not going to lie, he's super attractive and tall. His upper body is amazing and his shoulders and biceps are very distinct, so much so that sometimes I have to look away in order to keep my composure. But I don't really know what our relationship is. I met him back home at my singles ward. We started dating a week before school started. Once school started I would have to move away and I wasn't too sure if a long distance relationship was a good idea. Because time wasn't in our favor, our relationship was on steroids. Every day we were moving on to another level into the relationship. We dated in a week what most couples date in a month.

Before I knew it I was back to college. We both agreed that we would keep in contact, and we would date other people. I thought this a good idea. But it got to be more complicated than that. I started getting asked out on dates and of course I didn't tell him because I didn't want to make him jealous, but I found out that he wasn't dating anyone. This of course, made me feel guilty. I was the one dating and he wasn't?

He has very strong feelings for me, but I am hesitant. Ok he's 1. super attractive 2. does cute things (like giving me flowers) 3. funny ...but..I just don't think this is going to go anywhere. I told him this. Yeah, I don't think he liked that. But he doesn't take no for an answer. If I was more blunt and told him, "this is over." We would actually be over, but it makes it hard when there's a huge bouquet on my desk. Maybe he knows my weakness and he's using it against me.

Itzhak Perlman

I love when a boy sings. I love when a boy plays an instrument, I don't care what instrument it is just as long as he plays it and does it well it is so attractive.

My sister has had countless amounts of boyfriends and all of them seem to be this perfect instrument playing guy. I am so jealous. She will always tell me about her current bf playing a song on his guitar that he made up for her and how sweet it was. I almost either puke in my mouth from jealousy or get really excited for her and still feel jealous inside. I don't know why I can't find a guy like this, but it is a little sad.

I have however found the creepo type of guys who try to be hot and play their instruments and it is just a load of cheesiness. Normally when I see guys like this it is a total turn-off and I just want to laugh in their faces, tell them how ridiculous they truly are, then spit on the ground and walk away. (okay maybe not the first part but you know I put it in for dramatic effect)

I have had roommates and friends who have found the perfect type of instrument playing guy, and I think some of the things that make those boys attractive are these qualities:

  1. They are tall
  2. They actually have talent
  3. They are sincere in their actions, and they aren't just doing it to show off
  4. They know that there is potential with the girl (if they aren't already dating her)
  5. They have confidence
  6. And lets face it they are just good looking (not trying to be shallow, but we all know we look before we partake)

So, boys whoever you might be, if you are even reading this. Don't be fake. Be real. And please try to learn how to play an instrument because I really don't think I am alone when I say a boy who has talent is more attractive than one who doesn't.

-Erica

In the Beginning...

Well to start off I am Erica and I am one of the writers of this blog. Rexi and myself decided to start this primarily to remember the awesome times we have had being roommates, but also to fill all of YOU in on the dating lives of two college-age Mormon girls.

We date mostly other members of our faith (Mormon Boys) but here and there we decide to try some fresh meat outside of the LDS religion. So we will tell those stories as well.
Hopefully, you will all enjoy this blog of our dating adventures. And our personal guide to the heart and mind of Mormon Boys.

Friday, August 28, 2009

Rexi



Where to begin? I can't really say I'm a huggy person. In fact, a guy friend of mine said I give awkward hugs. So I know I'm not a huggy person. But I think Erica is going to help me work on it.
Barbara Millicent Roberts is my hero. Most people would know her as Barbie. But I am no Barbie, I just think she's awesome. But it's a good thing that I'm not a Barbie because techinically if I was shaped like her my long legs wouldn't be strong enough to hold up my breasts. And my neck would be freakishly long. But I'm 5'8'' with light brown eyes and light brown hair, 126.6 lbs (that's what it said on the scale this morning). I love wearing heels even though I tower over most of the guys. But I find that by wearing high heels it is a good way to weed out the shortys.

Love to keep eye contact with people and letting them break away first. I like to call it "eye sex." I love awkward silences during dates because I know it's just torturing him. He's probably scrambling in his brain, "uh...crap..what should I ask her?" bwahahaha.

As for guys, I love tall guys with broad shoulders. Nice eyes and a good smile are a plus. I love a guy who has a lot of "charm."

But that's all.

I am known as Rexi.

-R

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Erica

I love hugs. If I could hug every single person I saw I would probably have some sort of disease. I love cupcakes, they are so quaint and perfect and I am still on the search for the best kind. I collect coke bottles, yes this is a little strange but we've all got quirks. My whole lifes goal is to get a old volkswagen van and road trip it to all 50 states (except Hawaii obviously...but possibly I could get it flown out there for my journey on the islands). 
I like guys who smell good. They don't necessarily have to be wearing cologne, but if they smell clean then they are a winner in my book. I love talking to guys who are sarcastic, I feel like those are the type of guys who will be able to keep up with me. 


I have brown hair and brown eyes. I am 5'9" and about 130 pounds. My favorite color is yellow and I still feel like Snape is a traitor. 


The first thing I notice about guys is probably their eyes or arms (I like biteable muscles).